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In this season of the holidays, it is a custom to have resolutions. It seems like everyone is holding their pen scribbling their lists of 2019 improvements. And I do not make resolutions. You heard me right. I do not make them. Ever. And here’s why. As a much younger adult woman, I felt the pressure, the ads, the promises, and the anxiety of these resolutions. I vowed to lose 20 pounds, exercise everyday, eat clean, sleep 8 hours a night, read more books, journal everyday, be more present, show more kindness, spend less money, have more date nights, and the list goes on and on and on and on. This created a whirlwind of responsibilities, chaos, and a feeling of failure.

Now, don’t get me wrong… having goals is a great thing to do. But having a million resolutions is not. Goals are precise, measurable, and realistic. They are attainable. They are like mini revolutions that you can celebrate. On the other hand, resolutions are the opposite: they’re obscure, daunting, and unrealistic. I would end up setting so many resolutions that it set me up to fail harder than if I made none at all. So here are my top 5 reasons for not having any resolutions this year. And how you can feel free from them too.

1. Each day is a new day to start all over again. It’s definitely a cliche, but it is so true. Everyday is a new day to start over. I don’t need to wait until a new year comes along to have a desire to change a habit that I know is unhealthy, and neither do you. Everyday is a new day. Remember it and believe it.

2. Habits are hard to break. Resolutions are so often about breaking every bad habit you’ve ever had. This is exactly why they are so unrealistic. It takes time to break habits. A lot of time. Habits are an integral part of our everyday lives. Work on one at a time to have a true lasting impact.

3. Losing weight is not a quick fix. As a woman, I always feel pressure to lose weight. I shared with you all my dirty little secret that I’ve gained 10 pounds since summer. I’m not starving myself, spending endless hours exercising, or making myself miserable over food. And here’s why you shouldn’t either: creating a lifestyle that sustains your weight for your body takes trial and error. There is one program that works for one person that might not work for you. And that is absolutely okay. To lose weight in a healthy way, it is going to take time, commitment, and consistency. Not a resolution.

4. Be a better person. So often we negatively talk to ourselves, talk badly about others, or are just negative in general with all of the stress that comes with the world we live in (sorry for the tough love). That is completely understandable. Life is hard, work is hard, relationships are hard. It is all hard. And yet, we have to choose to be better and not let our stresses affect us. This is your choice. Everyday.

5. Love yourself. This means be true to you. Resolutions get us caught up in a vortex of images of who you need to be to be happy. The truth is, as long as you are true to you, then you will feel content in the life that you are living. Tell your story, be yourself, wear your truth with pride. Because there are always people listening. So let’s revolutionize our own stories that are true to ourselves.

What small step will you take to have a revolution this year?

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The Top 5 Reasons I Do NOT Have Resolutions